Laura freakin' rules. She turned me onto this Wikipedia article about Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy. It's brilliant. And this Ellis cat designed it just for me. Look! He talks about people who "think about their thinking and even think about thinking about their thinking."
I'm still studying up on the article- which is terribly written but informative. But the gist of it is this.
A= activating event, (or adversities, but I like the former better. Less judgy.)
So even if A is little (my inability to find my favorite hat this morning,) if B is big (like my PMS ridden brain believing I would be uncute and uncomfortable all day in a lesser hat and my hair was horrible plus the rain, agghh!!!!) then C is bigger than if B were a smaller rational belief.
So you introduce D, and dispute the stinkin' thinkin' thing.
Groovy. Also, they dig not so much the dwelling in the past and wondering why we have teh crazy. We just do, so we fix it. Interesting.